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Training Programs

The Spark Finder

Training Programs

Go deeper. Change the pattern.


Seven self-paced online programs, each built around a specific dating pattern. For people who want more than insight — they want real, lasting change. 


Start with the free Spark Finder quiz to find your program.

What’s Inside Every Program

1 — Understanding the Pattern: The behavioral science behind your specific pattern — why it forms, how it’s sustained, and why it has felt so difficult to change. Deep understanding is the foundation of lasting change.
 

2 — Awareness of Triggers & Habits: Identify the specific situations, feelings, and moments that activate your pattern. Once you can see it happening in real time — not just in hindsight — everything starts to shift.
 

3 — Tools to Overcome Challenges: Practical, research-based techniques built specifically for your pattern — not generic advice. A grounding toolkit, awareness practices, and a framework for making different choices. The Spark Profile measures your growth
 

Three pillars of real change

8 Program Available

Independent Style

When Walls Keep Love Out

For people who value independence deeply — sometimes at the cost of real connection. This program helps you understand what the walls are protecting and how to lower them without losing yourself.

Authenticity

The Real You Isn't Coming Through

COMING SOON

When dating feels like a performance — saying the right things, showing the right version of yourself — and real connection keeps not happening. This program helps you show up as who you actually are.

Partner Selection

Time to Recalibrate Your Checklist

COMING SOON

When the people you’re choosing keep not working out — not because you’re bad at dating, but because the criteria you’re using to evaluate partners need a thoughtful update. This program helps you find what you actually need.

Anxious Style

The Worry Pattern in Dating

When anxiety runs the show in dating — reading too much into silences, needing constant reassurance, feeling like the ground is always shifting. This program quiets the alarm and builds real security.

Avoidance

The Comfort Zone

COMING SOON

Staying with what’s familiar even when it isn’t working — choosing comfort over growth, safe options over real connection. This program helps you recognize the pattern and take meaningful risks.

Beliefs & Outlook

The Dating Mindset

COMING SOON

When the story you’re telling yourself about dating is the obstacle — believing it’s impossible, that good people don’t exist, that it’s too late. This program rewires the narrative from the ground up.

Access & Context

Opportunity: The Situation is the Problem

COMING SOON

When the circumstances of your life — location, schedule, social circle, apps — are genuinely getting in the way. This program helps you identify and shift the situational obstacles to meeting people.

Dating Re-Imagined

Find Great Love, Fast 

You may not know it, but you likely have some relationship baggage getting in your way of the relationship you want.  Almost everyone does, and it’s not easy to see.  This program can help identify the beliefs that sabotage your goals and rework them. You’ll also understand how your perspective influences your dating outcomes. This program is designed to help you use it to get the relationship you want, FASTER.

CONTACT ME

The Spark Finder

Author: Laura Heft
Email: laura@growoptimism.com

 

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