The Spark Doctor

Dr. Laura Heft

Ph.D., Behavioral Scientist Psychologist Author Coach Deeper Dating Mentor

I’ve spent a lot of time — professionally and personally — thinking about why dating is so hard for most of us. Why is it so difficult to meet someone we can love, enjoy, and share our lives with? It can feel disappointing, discouraging, almost impossible.

If you're here, something has started to look different to you. Maybe it's a pattern you've noticed across several relationships — the same arc, different people. Maybe it's just a quiet question you've been carrying: why does this keep happening?

That question is where we start. The patterns I work with are real, well-understood, and responsive to exactly the kind of work the Spark Finder ecosystem is built around. Once you name the pattern, everything changes.

  • Behavioral Science — every tool is research-backed, not guesswork

  • Psychologist — weaves in the science of the mind and behavior for real change

  • Author of ReSingled— a guide to dating after a significant relationship ends

  • Deeper Dating Mentor — trained in Ken Page's evidence-based methodology

  • Coach with decades of experience helping people overcome stubborn patterns